Tuesday, September 25, 2012

"Mommy, you happy?"

Some of the biggest things as a mom that I try to give Londyn is confidence, acceptance, to show her how to love, and just how big her God is.

Recently Londyn moved into the 2 year old classroom at Preschool. I thought it would be an easy transition for her since her teachers tried so hard to prepare her for the changes and new room. I remember the first week of school day 4 her teacher saying to me "we never give timeouts the first week of school". At that point I knew that Londyn was being a trying 2 year old and that the next few weeks would not go as hoped. Week 2 came and I am pretty sure she had a time out every other day, week 3 and every day was a time out. I was trying to figure out where I had gone wrong with training her and helping her get ready for these big changes. I tried to tell myself that she is just one of the younger students in the group and that is why she is struggling. I tried to tell myself that she is just 2 and these things happened. At the end of week 2 I realized that I was doing no favor by chalking it up to be a young year old behavior. Week 3 we took many things away as a consequence to her behaviors. I believe Dora lived on the shelf for a good 3 days and the little pink phone was up there for a day. Then I began to bribe her with things that really really mattered to her.....painting her toenails, candy, Sprite, and going to the park. It was like one day she woke up and I had my old Londyn back!
I'm not saying that she doesn't have bad days (there are pros and cons to working at the same school as your child), there are a few days that are trying.
Right now we are really trying to teach Londyn that you don't follow everyone else and that you have to make good choices. That is hard for a two year old to understand. Just today I was observing her in the gym and they were teaching the children how to play Two year old "kickball". I watched as one student began rolling on the floor and putting her feet up in the air. As soon as Londyn caught sight of that she began to do the exact same. I quickly responded with "Londyn that is not what you are suppose to be doing right now, you should not follow what your friends are doing". She was quickly back to sitting crisscross applesauce and doing what she was suppose to.
Back to the timeouts. If she has a good day we know because there will be a sticker on her daily sheet. As soon as I grab her papers out of her cubby that is the first thing that I look for and she knows it. Most of the time as soon as she sees me at the end of day she will say "NO TIMEOUTS MOMMY, I GOT A STICKER". There is pure joy in her voice with these words. We make stickers a big deal! Lately I have been saying "Londyn you got a sticker today!" She in return says "You happy mommy?" "Yes girl I am SO happy".
YES!!!! It is in her! She tries so hard to make us happy. For her to know that getting a sticker makes us happy is a beautiful thing it really is. It is even more beautiful to have that joy when my little 2 year old says to me "mommy you happy!" I've got the Joy Joy Joy Joy down in my heart, where? Down in my heart..... I could just break out in song (if you have ever heard me sing you know she should run!)

I want to make sure that my little girl never forgets how proud I am no matter what she is going through. At the end of the day no matter what happens I love her and nothing in this world would change those warm fuzzy feelings I have for her.

Thursday, August 30, 2012

My God is bigger than my story

Recently I was at a party and had seen people I hadn't seen in years. I thought it would be great to catch up and see how life has been treating them. About 2 seconds into me talking I realized I was not really welcomed in their conversation. I asked myself what in the world would cause someone to treat me in such a way that I felt little and stupid. Then it hit me that I was not being judged by my character, rather I was being judged by the way I was dressed (pants and a shirt). Ugh is all I can say. This has really made me think about my story and how I got to today. You may be bored by line three of my story and I will totally understand if you stop reading. I want to write this though so I never forget where I came from and how I got to today.

When I was young, 8 years old I recall, my parents separated and were divorced. By age 9 my sister (my best friend) got married and moved 1.5 hours from me. By age11 my family decided to move to Bedford so we could be close to my sister (that was a great move, I sure did miss her). At this time I was in the fifth grade mid year trying to fit in. I lived a year and a half at a school that people were mean. Girls were mean, they were mean girls. I ran to the bathroom many times to cry because I was made fun of, you get my point.

In high school I had an identity crisis and didn't know who I was or even who I wanted to be. I tried to be someone I was not. I tried to fit in the crowd and make the friends that every girl wanted. In high school I dated a guy for 3 years, was "madly in love" with him. (Oh girl hormones, what was love?) He was a great person but had a lot of issues he needed to work out for himself. It wasn't for me to be in the middle of.

Through out high school I went to a few churches, some people might have called me a "church hopper". I grew up in my sister and brother-n-laws church. But I soon realized that it is was not easy for anyone being related to the pastor family. You were always held at a higher standard. So I decided to adventure out to different locations around town. The second church that I went to I had the pastor pull me in his office after a very moving service and tell me I was not welcomed back to his church. Seriously, do people really do that? So I began my journey again. I found a church that I liked a lot. At this point I had broken up with my boyfriend at the time. I began to go through a spiritual crisis. I didn't know what I believed personally. I was raised one way and decided to go with it. But at 18 I decided to explore my options. I wrote a letter to a close friend at the time explaining how I felt, which led to an awful meeting with that pastor.You can guess where that meeting went.

At this time I was in my junior year of high school and was tired of the "church" and decided I wasn't even going down that road again. It was at that point that I met Keith. Barely knowing him I shared that I had no desire for church and that people were stupid for judging. He explained that not all church people are like that and I should go with him and try it out. And I did, which led to me feeling loved by God's people. You see the issue here is that it was not the same denomination as I had grown up with. But the people were not judging me and they loved me. At this point I found my dedication to the church. It didn't come easy. Actually my dad argued with me because he thought I was throwing my life away.

I remember the summer Keith and I met. We agreed that we would only date for the summer and then break up when it was time for me to finish high school and for him to go to ONU. LOL.....who really thought that would work. Needless to say January I was graduating mid term from high school and packing my bags for ONU.

A year into my journey at ONU my father lost all of his businesses and didn't know how he was going to pay for my college. This was probably one of the biggest times in my teen years that I had to lean on the Lord. You see I laid awake many nights at 2/3:00 in the morning crying because if there was no money to pay for college how would I make it. I found great comfort in that school, I loved the private small classrooms and godly women I was around.

Through much prayer, I was able to get a job and the help of my mom, I finished college. Which brings me to 5 years ago....

By the grace of God Keith and I were married. We had quite the journey that led to our wedding day. We did it, we were married, it finally happened, let life begin.

Before I had graduated from ONU I had done an internship at Lafayette First Church of the Nazarenes (LFCN) preschool, Kiddie Kollege. Funny how things work. A few months after we were married and a door opened for me to take the Director position. (Sitting back today I am wondering what I was thinking at 23 when I took that position, I love my job but seriously a 23 year old with such responsibility).

3 years ago Keith and I decided that we wanted to have kids and the journey began. at 10 weeks of being pregnant we found out that our baby's heart never started beating. (ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!) Seriously, why would God do such a thing! 3 months later we found out that we were pregnant with our second baby. Londyn Rae was our miracle baby. She had us on our toes from 23 weeks until it was time to deliver (check out my previous post to read her story). Londyn was due the same month that we lost our first baby. How awesome is God?! He knew that April would forever be an awful month and he gave me a baby to take the sorrow away and make it one of my favorite months.

You are asking why am I writing all of this. You see, yes I changed denominations 10 years ago and I do wear pants and probably look "worldly". But here is the truth, I love the Lord my God with all of my heart and soul. If it weren't for Keith stepping me in and walking me through this part of life called Faith I wouldn't be here today. I wouldn't be working in a Godly environment, I wouldn't have my husband, and I wouldn't have my girl.

Last weekend I was singing in the shower with Londyn (No, I do not sound better in the shower) part of the song 10,000 reasons. Bless the lord oh my soul;Oh my soul;Worship his holy name; Sing like never before;Oh my soul;I worship you holy name. Londyn began to join in with me and before you knew it we had our own worship gathering, just us and the shower curtain.

At that moment I realized that it didn't matter what others thought of me the day before. It doesn't matter  how people may view me because I have a story. A story of grace and second chances. A story that I will never forget. A story that if it were not for God intervening many times I might not be living nor where I am today. 

So the people that think they know the life that I live and think I am so far from the Lord. They couldn't be any more wrong than that. Does it really matter what we wear, where we worship or how? I don't think my God is that shallow. I don't think he cares. The times that I have visited my sister/brother-n-laws church in the past few years I have to say that those people know enough of my story to know that I live for my Lord. I appreciate that about them. (So if you are one of those people from Guide Point thank you for not judging, thank you for treating me like a Christian like yourself). The truth is My heart bleeds for my Lord. Because of this road I have chosen I have a little girl who sings this with all of her heart!



I feel blessed that I am loved by my Lord this much. I am thankful that I have a little girl that is growing to know just how big her God really is. 

Thursday, July 5, 2012

We are still ALIVE!

Has it seriously been 3 months since I have blogged?!?! Seriously?!?! Crazy to think how fast time goes. So much has happened since I blogged last. I mean there was our trip to North Carolina for my mom's graduation, Memorial Day, Our anniversary and Londyn's first weekend stay at Mamaw and Papaws, Father's Day, and 4th of July! So to quickly give you an update of our crazy life....here ya go.

Londyn and I headed on for my moms in May. It was a wonderful time, maybe the best time I've had with her. I spent Mother's Day with my mom which was just great. I woke up to flowers, breakfast, and a wonderful lunch out. I'd like to show you a picture, but apparently I had too much fun that I forgot to do so :(. During our trip I found Londyn the princesses and Mickey Mouse that she was looking forward to seeing. We also had many park days full of fun. My Great grandma and Aunt came too. It was great to look back on how each of us have grown and caught up with the things life brought us. Anyways we had a blast the whole time, but sure were ready to see our daddy:)





Just a couple weeks ago Keith and I celebrated 5 years of marriage. This was a big weekend for me, it was the LONGEST I've been away from Londyn. We met our inlaws in Carmel for dinner and then returned home childless. Keith and I headed out to St. Louis for our trip after work on Thursday. We did a whole lot of eating, little sleeping, and a lot of thinking of our girl. I was dreading my time away from Londyn. But in the end I absolutely loved having some time alone with my husband.  Our trip ended us back in Bedford for Father's Day. The guys smoked a brisket, which was AMAZING!

The best breakfast out there!

Happy Anniversary

Our beautiful table at Ruth Chris

My handsome date

Our meal
Ready to see our girl
I think they missed each other



I sure missed her!

Happy Father's Day

Yesterday we celebrated Independence Day.  It was great. We had good friends, great food, and a wonderful time. Londyn was out by 9:00 and fireworks started on the TV at 10 (due to the burn ban). I think I made it through the first 5 minutes before I found myself asleep on the couch. It was the quietest fourth I've had.

I'm a sucker for black and white photos

Her fourth spirit
This is how she really felt

Pinterest dessert that was a hit 

Lots of dessert

Lots of food

Love this man!
This is how we chill
I'm adding this one just because I love my girl!



Sorry if I bored you through reading this, you actually might not even read to this point to get to my apology.

Here are pictures from our fun!


Saturday, April 7, 2012

Happy Birthday my 2 year old!

Dear LondyRae,

     Wow, I just can't believe that you are two! Where has the time gone? I'll tell you where it's gone. It's gone through adventures, learning, growth, and personality. Yes that's right I said personality. It is crazy to think of how big you have become and how much you now know. You are one bright little girl that is clever in her thinking and always ready to discover new things, even animals right now:).
When I think about this time last year you were just starting to walk, gain confidence in your steps, and tried to play by yourself. This year we celebrate all of that and so much more. In the past year you have learned how to play for 15-20 minutes by yourself out of our sight. You love to play with your baby, kitchen toys, pretending, and hiding under a blanket. I love to hear you tell your baby that you love her and give her a hug when she is hurt. I think it's funny that you work your baby up to go shopping as I do you. We get excited about those things. In the past year you have learned that you can reach the counter tops in the kitchen, bathroom, and your dresser. Mommy and daddy have learned this too. You love to play outside, I mean LOVE to play outside. You always want to go play at the park, ride in your stroller, and go for a walk. You love to talk on skype and give hugs and kisses to the person on the other side. One thing I can say about you is that you are a loving girl. You always want to cuddle, kiss, and hug....I'm okay with that:).
Your recent word discovery is "Why?" Yes I know, I can't explain everything to you. Like the time you dropped something down the register in the bathroom and you didn't understand why I couldn't get it for you. Or "why" you had to go to time out. Speaking of time-outs. You are really testing this area right now, missy! Sometimes you sit, but most of the time you try to scoot yourself slowly closer to us. Some day you will learn that the quicker you serve your time out the quicker you will get out, it just takes time. You have a spunky personality right now. You know what you want, how you want it, and who is going to give it to you. You are a fighter, you won't just take no for an answer nor does time out really seem like a threat to you. Actually you are really testing your boundaries right now. I hear that is just part of being two. Daddy and I will walk you through this and be by your side every step of the way. It will be a learning experience for all of us.
You love to pray holding hands. Your favorite prayer right now is God Our Father. I like it too. It's cute to listen to you say it word for word. You make sure that everyone says it word for word too.
In just the past few weeks you have been using full sentences, remembering things we say to you and relaying messages to someone.
The friends that you love playing with the most are Desmond, Addy, Kinley, Morgan, and Xander. You love school and all that has to do with it.
Your favorite tv shows are Dinosaur Train, Blue's Clues, Elmo, Thomas the Train, Dora, and Backyardigans.
You had surgery about a month ago on your adenoids and tubes when you turned one. You are much healthier now. Dr. Hendrick and Dr. Cupero have taken good care of you!

I hope that some day when you read this you see the joy that you are to me. No matter what happens I will always love you! You are my girl and my alligator;). Thank you for bringing me great joy and teaching me many things in the past year. I look forward to growing and exploring with you this year.

Monday, January 2, 2012

Winter Festivities and more.

Our Holidays have been very eventful. We have been able to enjoy all of our friends and family this year, making me feel very blessed. Our Christmas week was crazy for us because it seemed as though we just couldn't get our plans straightened out. We decided to go ahead and do our Christmas with Londyn on Tuesday night (before Christmas). I could hardly hold myself back from opening her gifts myself, I just knew it was everything her little heart would love. So Tuesday night when Keith got home (later than usual because of work) we rushed to skype with my mom so that she could watch Londyn open up the presents she sent her. After that we let Londyn enjoy those presents, which she did very much! While I watched her build up her stacking blocks as high as she could and knock them over, I began to make the dinner I was looking forward to:). A few weeks ago I got a really good deal on a waffle maker at Kohls so I told Keith when we did our Christmas I was making waffles with vanilla bean ice cream. Dinner was good, however this was the first time that allrecipes.com let me down with the homemade batter. I still see waffles in our near future with a new recipe:). By the time we got to opening Christmas with Londyn it was around 8:30 or so. We knew that we were getting to the point of tiredness and she would be over it all very soon. As she saw all of her gifts her little eyes didn't know what to do:). She loved her baby and all of it's gear, she became a natural little mommy in no time.
We did Christmas with our best friends on Thursday night and headed out of town on Friday morning to enjoy Christmas with our families down south. Friday night was a blast with my sister's. I always enjoy getting with them. I would say that my older sister and I are closer, maybe because our lives are similar in everything that we do. But it is always a pleasure when we get to spend time together. I miss her when I'm around her. I wish we had more time together and sometimes lived closer (however, I love my home and Lafayette:)). Londyn got a Lalaloopsy from them and new Twinkle toes. She received another stroller from my other sister and so all was right in her little world. She loved giving presents too. This was our first visit that Londyn did not cry, just another sign that she is becoming such a big girl.
Saturday we stayed in and just enjoyed family, naps, and baking. Keith and I have talked about whether or not Santa would come in the picture for Christmas. This year we made cookies and left them out, but Santa didn't bring anything. I'm sure we are really going to have to make decision soon. Christmas day we read the Christmas story, as well as, played with our nativity scene. After that we saw that Hoho ate part of his cookies (tip for the future, eat it at night not the next morning, yuk!) Londyn then opened up her rock with Elmo and equipment from Uncle Kevin and her Cleaning cart from mamaw and papaw. She had a great time. Soaked up all of the attention she could get. By the time we left Bedford she was one sleepy little girl and was glad to be home again.
Christmas from Meemaw. This was her favorite

Waffles and Ice Cream

Excited to start opening

BABY!

Each baby must have it's accessories

Such a good little mommy

Eating with Monkey at Mamaws and papaws

Giving Aunt Julie love with Lalaloopsy

making cookies for Santa

Cutting out our cookies

Ready for the oven

Checking to see if they are done

Our cookie for hoho
Playing the story of Christmas

Christmas morning!


"I might not be able to move, but I sure do like them"

Feeding our babies

Dancing with Daddy

For New Year's we had friends over and celebrated. As Last year, Londyn fell asleep at 12:00 on the dot. It was great to celebrate with good Friends.

This is not anything to celebrate about (or maybe it is) I rear-ended someone last Tuesday morning when it was snowing. Not a way to start your morning trust me. However, the good part about it is that the insurance company is writing a check for more than the car is worth. Now we need to decide if a second car is in our near future or not.
God has been so good to me this past year, I cannot tell it all. But I am thankful. I am excited to see where he puts me this year and the blessings we will see!